¿Quién no hizo o le hicieron un berrinche alguna vez? Pocas cosas son tan vergonzosas. Justin Baldoni vive esas situaciones bastante seguido, pero su reacción es totalmente distinta a la que cualquiera de nosotros tendría.
Hace algunos días el actor compartió en sus redes sociales una imagen en la que se ve a su hija llorando en el piso de un supermercado en Nueva York. Como muchos padres, vivió una incómoda situación, pero se la bancó y decidió hacer una reflexión que se terminó viralizando.
I tried to stay off social media yesterday to connect with my family without distraction so I'm posting this today. Emily took this in Whole Foods. It's now one of my favorite photos ever of me and my dad. Two men, standing together in silence, forever bonded by an unconditional love for both each other and this brand new, raw and pure soul who we would both go to the ends of the earth for. I can only imagine how many times I did this when I was her age. My dad taught me so much about what it means to be a man, but this post is about one thing and one thing only. Being comfortable in the uncomfortable. Something I grew up watching him do with me over and over again. There are no perfect parents, but one thing my dad taught me is to not parent based on what anyone else thinks. My dad always let me feel what I needed to feel, even if it was in public and embarrassing. I don't remember him ever saying "You're embarrassing me!" or "Dont cry!" It wasn't until recently that I realized how paramount that was for my own emotional development. Our children are learning and processing so much information and they don't know what to do with all of these new feelings that come up. I try to remember to make sure my daughter knows it's OK that she feels deeply. It's not embarrassing to me when she throw tantrums in the grocery store, or screams on a plane. I'm her dad…not yours. Let's not be embarrassed for our children. It doesn't reflect on you. In fact.. we should probably be a little more kind and patient with ourselves too. If we got out everything we were feeling and allowed ourselves to throw tantrums and cry when we felt the need to then maybe we'd could also let ourselves feel more joy and happiness. And that is something this world could definitely use a little more of. #fathersday #redifinemasculinity #daddy #dearmaiya
“No hay padres perfectos, pero una cosa que me enseñó el mío fue a no ser padre en función de lo que piensen los demás. Mi papá siempre me dejaba sentir lo que necesitaba sentir, aunque fuera en público y medio vergonzoso. No recuerdo que me dijera: ‘¡Me estás avergonzando!’ o ‘¡No llores!'”, escribió.
Además, recordó su infancia: “No fue hasta hace poco tiempo cuando me di cuenta de lo importante que fue para mi propio desarrollo emocional. Nuestros niños están aprendiendo y procesando tanta información y no saben qué hacer con todos estos nuevos sentimientos que aparecen. No es vergonozoso para mí cuando mi hija hace un berrinche en un supermercado o cuando grita en un avión. Soy su padre… no el tuyo. No nos avergoncemos de nuestros hijos. De hecho, probablemente deberíamos ser también un poco más amables y pacientes con nosotros mismos”.
“Si pudiésemos expresar lo que estamos sintiendo y tener berrinches y llorar cuando sentimos la necesidad, tal vez podríamos ser más alegres y felices”, finalizó el actor.
La publicación generó todo tipo de reacciones y tuvo más de 100 mil comentarios. Algunos usuarios se mostraron a favor de la crianza de Justin y otros, en contra.
De todas maneras él y su pareja se muestran muy convencidos de su forma de educar a su hija y ahora cada vez que tiene un capricho comparten la imagen.
Yesterday was a big day, It was Maiya's 2nd birthday party! I mean…thats a big deal right!? Ok I'm gonna say something controversial. Ready? I think for the first few years, birthdays are really celebrations that we parents have for ourselves. They are a chance for us to see all the people we love that we haven't seen in ages because…well…#parenthood. They are a chance to enjoy our families and actually get outside. And lets be honest, for those of us trying to figure this out, they are a chance for us to celebrate that we have somehow made it through another full year! But for Maiya, yesterday was just another day where she got to navigate (in front of a bunch of people) the amazing, rich feelings that she is experiencing while learning how to process this magical and confusing world. See, 30 seconds before this photo was taken she was smiling and laughing. Nothing happened that we could see… but for Maiya, something happened. And even if it was small to us it was big for her. And thats OK. Who cares that she was crying when we were trying to sing her happy birthday and take the perfect Instagram picture. Our kids could give a shit about how we look on social media! So who cares? Look, I know I said this in a previous post that evidently has gone viral on facebook and has inspired some controversy (which means people missed my point) but lets just all remember to be patient with ourselves and our children. When they throw tantrums are they really embarrassing us? Or are we just so concerned about what everyone else thinks that we are forgetting to emotionally support and give our children the love and compassion they need-especially when they cant even speak yet! Life is hard enough for a new brain and heart. And as adults we are already hard enough on ourselves. So I just want to say this. May we all find a moment to have the same compassion we should have for our little children but for ourselves today. And if you don't have a child… I would challenge you that your wrong. You do have a child. Its right there, inside of you. Still trying to process this intense, emotional, and confusing world, and just wants to know they are loved. #dearmaiya
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